The “Why” stage is my absolute favourite stage of parenthood. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not perfect so yes it does drive me crazy and makes me want to screeaaaammm at times, but, having to be accountable for everything that comes into my child’s consciousness keeps me on my toes.
“Mylo, Get down from there!”
“Whyyy”
“Because it’s dangerous”
“Whyyyy”
“Because you could fall”
“Whyyy”
“Because it’s high up”
“Whyyy”
🥴”Because, (searching for an answer) mommy has to be able to reach it when I’m standing up”
She then, and only then will get down.
Another one
“I love you Mylo”
“Whyyyy”
🙄😂”Because you’re kind, & funny, & intelligent and beautiful.
Or the best kind
“Mommy, I want a drink please”
“Okay, I will get you one”
“Whyyyyyyyy”👀😳🤬😩🤣
“Because you’re thirsty so you asked me for a drink!!!!!”😭😭😭
Children are inquisitive and how you respond the why stage really has a huge impact on them for the rest of their life.
My daughter will not stop asking why until it makes sense TO HER! And I will keep going as long as I can to clarify the world for her because I don’t ever want her to ever feel ashamed or stupid for asking for clarity. I don’t want her to ever wonder why she is loveable and I don’t want her to go into anything blindly if she doesn’t feel right about it because she feels expected to have all the answers already.
A lot of us hate this stage because we weren’t given answers to our whys so we just don’t know how to answer logical questions or quite frankly we relish being in a position to gatekeep the luxury of understanding because we never had it.
But we only never had it because of generational curses from slavery times indoctrinated us to do as we are told with limited information as to why as a means of control. I’m breaking that cycle.
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