There’s such a grave misconception about conscious parenting. Some people believe that it means letting your children do whatever they want, and setting them up to be disrespectful towards you.
And then you have the others who feel like they’re conscious parenting purely because they’ve made the decision not to beat their children, and I’m not undermining that decision, kudos to you! Well done for making that choice. However conscious parenting is more than just not beating your children.
It’s speaking life into them, it’s teaching them how to emotionally regulate, its being emotionally and physically present in their lives, it’s supporting them and teaching them how to be independent adults, it’s showing up for them and teaching them about autonomy and self-worth. It’s allowing them to have boundaries and opinions, and it’s being intentional in the way that you redirect them to better thought processes, behaviours, and uses of their time.
Emotional neglect is one of the most common ways to damage your children & you don’t have to be a bad parent to be guilty of this. All it takes is for your parents not to have learned how to emotionally regulate theirs! So now you have no tools to be able to teach your children how to do it and when your child has a meltdown you get triggered, and you don’t know how to support them, so you end up trying to silence them or punish them because the situation becomes too overwhelming for you.
Conscious parenting is about identifying the generational curses and trauma affecting you. Aside from general guidelines, what your families needs are, will more than likely be different to the to the next, so understanding how your childhood affects your parenting is the very first step in being the best conscious parent that you can be for your child.
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